I feel used and manipulated.
Let me explain, (or listen for yourself and then feel free to share your feelings):

I was born during the sexual revolution. As I aged, the movement grew beside me in size and momentum. My parents are conservative people. They taught me to balance a checkbook, the foundations of basic economics, the value of hard work, church on Sunday, how to make a geometric triangular pattern when vacuuming, responsibility for my actions, kindness, the importance of academics, how to mow the lawn alternating diagonally each time so the grass took on a golf-course appearance, how to change a diaper and much more; both trivial and valuable. In my house, we didn’t talk about sex.

I taught myself how to use a tampon. My friends and the media were my sexual resources; and they weren’t particularly adept. The AIDS epidemic paralleled my puberty. The fear that ensued ensured I was educated on the benefits of condoms. Celibacy was not part of my health class curriculum, nor the culture of my peers.

During high school and college years, girls were equally and openly scorned as “dick-tease” or “slut.” Navigating the fine-line between either criticism was an acrobatic feat worthy of the Ringling Brothers. The facts of your actions were not even necessarily relevant to the rumor mill. The message was simply; sex is happening and it was my responsibility not to “lead-on” a man nor engage “too many” partners. No-one defined “too many.”

I was thrust into the hormonal soup of adolescence without much knowledge. I thought oral-sex was something done over the phone. I was completely unaware of the definition of anal-sex, which caused an embarrassing exchange I previously (revealed in The Sex Talk).

Cosmopolitan magazine was my primary sex eduction source. Cosmo’s glossy pages full of beautiful women boldly explained: sexual positions, how to ensure orgasm, what men want in bed, how to know if a man is “into” you, how to get a man to notice you… etc. God bless me, even as an educated woman with a master’s degree and a coveted position at an international accounting firm; I consumed each article with the same enthusiasm as I devote to a family sized bag of salt and vinegar chips, (entire bag. on my own. one sitting).

Naturally, I came to associate sex with power. I learned that a pair of high heels, fitted clothing and a bit of cleavage (done tastefully in the workplace and less so in a night-club), combined with an aloof demeanor is a tool to both get noticed and to intimidate. I used that tool to my advantage regularly.

Last week I listened to a radio interview with Sue Ellen Browder. Sue Ellen is a journalist and former employee of Cosmopolitan magazine. She is also the author of Subverted: How I Helped the Sexual Revolution Hijack the Women’s Movement.

Major take-aways from the interview to ponder:

Is it difficult to imagine that during the 1970’s Cosmopolitan magazine contained fantasy presented as the stories of “real” women?

What if you learned that Helen Gurley Brown, an editor of Cosmopolitan magazine wrote a set of writers guidelines that stated “it was fine to make up experts to quote and create anecdotes of civilians”?

Are you surprised that the deceit within the pages of a major media outlet has not been reported on in mainstream media?

Does it interest you that the a man, Larry Lader was the leader of the original pro-choice movement?

Perhaps you might like to know how Larry Lader and Bernard Nathanson Convinced Betty Friedan to insert contraception and abortion into the women’s movement?

Did you know the issues of contraception and abortion were championed predominately by white middle-class men?

Does it shock you that only 57 women voted “yes” to include abortion as part of the political platform, (excerpts of meeting minutes included in Sue Ellen’s book)?

In fact, the inclusion of abortion caused 1/3 of the women present present for the vote to resign from the National Organazation for Women. Many entered other organizations such as Women’s Equity Action League which had much success in their pursuit of educational and professional equality.

Sue Ellen took great care to research and document what she did not witness first-hand; she names people, dates, includes meeting minutes. There is much reason to believe her story. The story is a picture-perfect example of the minority forming law and influencing culture of the majority.

I feel outraged: at myself, at Cosmo, at the people who purposefully and manipulatively aligned sex with feminism, and the impact on American culture.
I am angry at myself. Neither my intelligence nor my moral upbringing shielded me from believing a trend of behavior that so clearly has little benefit for women, (sexuality has nothing to do with equality nor opportunity for women*). I am perplexed that Cosmopolitan magazine allowed itself to be a deceptive propaganda mechanism . I am deeply disappointed that sexuality was ever aligned with women’s rights.

I fear there are many more examples of the tail wagging the proverbial dog. Have integrity and truth been packed up with God and plucked out of the American Way? Where is the line of reality?


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*Frankly, the sexual revolution cheapened sex, objectified women, and diluted responsibility for actions chosen.